There is Always Looking After
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I heard this line in a movie in a scene where a father was very concerned about his grown-up son who was undergoing a crisis in his career and family life. The father had a terminal illness and was expected to die soon and yet he finds time to go to his son and comfort him. The son was understandably puzzled at his father's action but the father simply said:
"There is always looking after..."
The "job" of a parent never gets finished. It does not end after a child successfully graduates from school. It does not get passed on when the grown-up son or daughter marries. It does not go away even when the child grows up to be the president of a multinational company or a country.
As a child goes through life, there is always a parent rooting for him or her at the background. There is always a parent clapping and spreading the news of the child's accomplishments to anyone who cares to listen. Most importantly, there is a parent who knows the secret sorrows and heartbreaks of the child and who will know whether to silently stand by and allow the child to fight his or her own battles for his or her own good or intervene.
My Say
I know for a fact that being a parent has no end. I know it because I've been through it and am still going through it. Parenthood transcends age, status, and accomplishments. My children will always be my children wherever fate brings them and that is what I like them to remember. In their triumphs, I will be rejoicing with them. In their failures, I will carry them until they are able to stand up again. In their weariness, I will be waiting for them.
That said, no matter what age of the child is, there is always looking after as far as the parent is concerned.
My Say
I know for a fact that being a parent has no end. I know it because I've been through it and am still going through it. Parenthood transcends age, status, and accomplishments. My children will always be my children wherever fate brings them and that is what I like them to remember. In their triumphs, I will be rejoicing with them. In their failures, I will carry them until they are able to stand up again. In their weariness, I will be waiting for them.
That said, no matter what age of the child is, there is always looking after as far as the parent is concerned.
48 comments
I agree. And my parents is working on the same principle. For them (and also for me), no matter what age the child is, there is always looking after. One can never set the limit, the boundary...because of love ~ the greatest legacy a parent could give their children.
ReplyDeleteno matter how old we get our parents will always care about us
ReplyDeleteThis is such a nice and touching piece. Parenting is a lifetime commitment.
ReplyDeleteMy grandma is exactly like that. That's why I love her so much ♥
ReplyDeleteThis is so true.. I lost my parents at a young age, but my cousins have looked after me since then. And even if they're really not my parents, they still look after me. :)
ReplyDeleteMai, it doesn't matter who does the looking after. The important thing is that we feel that there is always someone watching out for us.
ReplyDeleteAwwww. This made me cry for one second, really.
ReplyDelete"There is always a parent clapping and spreading the news of the child's accomplishments to anyone who cares to listen." ♥
Couldn't agree with you more. My elderly mother still looks after the baon I bring to work every morning. :))
ReplyDeleteYes Tricia, the things parents do for their children usually merit a tear or two.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree and I am just so glad that I have parents who are still there to support me even if I already have my own family.
ReplyDeleteTrue. I am very grateful that I have loving parents. Im 24 years old, my dad never fails to look after me. Pagwala pa nga ako sa bahay ng 9pm, lagi na tumatawag sa phone at hahanapin ako. Hahaha. Nakakairita minsan but I definitely understand him. He cares!
ReplyDeleteYour words, this post made my heart squeeze.
ReplyDeleteNow, I am not only a daughter, but a mother.
Through the years, I've come to understand my parent's more, their behaviour in the past, and my mother's concern in the present (my father passed away before my first born came to being).
My partner and I often talk about our children (I have stepchildren, as he is the surrogate father of our three girls). How we look forward to seeing them to be strong independent individuals, but we will always be there for them, no matter what.
agree with everything. thanks for sharing this inspiring post.
ReplyDeleteJoana, real understanding comes from being a parent as well. right?
ReplyDeleteMothers role is unending.They are always there to guide us no matter how far she is to us. Mothers love is unconditional.
ReplyDeletewow indeed very true!! i myself is a mother and i know how each mother feel when they get worried even by just thinking of seeing our kid go to school by themselves! haha xx
ReplyDeleteSo true. I'm about to become a mom and yet my parents would still constantly check on me!
ReplyDeleteUndying love and support of parents. :)
ReplyDeleteI admire parents who always look after their children.
ReplyDeleteI agree... God for one never ceases to look after us!
ReplyDeleteAgreed on most part, but this one blew me away: The "job" of a parent never gets finished. Parenthood is the noblest 'job' in deed.
ReplyDeleteIndeed it doesn't end and yes it is the noblest job of all.
ReplyDeleteSo true. Me and my siblings already have families of our own but our Mom and Dad are still guiding us.
ReplyDeleteAgree completely, even though my Mom and I are miles apart, I always find comfort in asking her what to do when I have some difficulty with my parenting skills.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Teresa, 101%. Our parents are living testament to this and so was the generation before them.
ReplyDeleteI know that when I took the sacrament of Matrimony, the task ahead of rearing my child for as long as I live is part of the blessed sacrament. Our role as parents to nurture and see to it that out kids and our grand kids are well-taken cared of will always be a part of our parenting life.
Chubskulit Rose: Parenthood does not know the limit of distance. It always finds a way, doesn't it?
ReplyDeleteRia C: It's amazing how parents are able to overcome limitations especially when it is the child's interest at stake.
ReplyDeleteSame with me. parenting is 24/7job with no day off and the contract is indefinite. LOL
ReplyDeleteeveryone in my family is always looking after the younger ones...
ReplyDeletei'm pretty sure too even my kid will have his own big family., i'd still surely be looking after him/them...
cheers and happy new year
Very true...Parents should always keep guiding their children even at their late years. There's no denying the fact that a parent's love for her children will always be eternal and thoughtful all throughout the years.
ReplyDeletePapaleng: It really is 24/7 job although I'm sure we're not complaining. Parenting is the result of our decision to love.
ReplyDeleteRonSilvoza: I'm sure you will be.
ReplyDeleteRoss: Parenting is a calling that we chose to accept so we accept both the joy and the pain.
ReplyDeleteAgree with you,being a parent never ends and that's the beauty of it.
ReplyDeleteWhen my 6-year-old daughter asks me to not call her a baby anymore, I always tell her that she will always be my baby even when she's already an adult. A mom's love is forever and a dad's is endless. I am thankful for the privilege I am given to be a mother! :)
ReplyDeleteand that's what I called responsible parenting....:)
ReplyDeleteI'm blessed with parents whose been there to support and care for me. They lifted me up and inspired me especially on days that I'm down. I can't wait for the moment when I will say my share of thoughts about being parents.
ReplyDeletei dont understand that until i become a mom. Well, 2year of motherhood pa lang naman..but it taught me of so many things..and yeah, being parent is endless...hindi ito natatapos sabi mo nga..
ReplyDeletei am not aware of that until I become a mother too! like no matter what obstacles or what's the problem or even if you're mad there is always looking after
ReplyDeleteit is a blessing to become a parent but the responsibilities are far greater than anyone can expect, and there is no smooth ride or journey in parenting. like you, i will stand by my boys no matter what.
ReplyDeleteSo true, your post reminds me of what my parents would tell some distant relatives and family friendswwhenever they asked me when I am getting married, "am I not worried if who will take care of me when I get old". My parents, when they hear that, they would say, " we do not think it will be right for her to get married simply to have kids who will take care of her when she is old. Our kids are God's gifts to strengthen and add more joy to our marriage. We have the responsibility to look after them without expectations of them taking care of us, they will be parents to their kids, not to their parents."
ReplyDeleteWhen I was still single, I always ask my Mom why she never gets tired of helping my siblings but now that I am a mother myself, I completely understand the reasons.
ReplyDeletebeing a parents is a wonderful feeling and I'm thankful I have opportunity to be a parent.
ReplyDeleteIt's always a blessings to have a parents who always look after their kids even when they are adults, i guess that's how unconditional love is
ReplyDeleteI would never get married, if I have only known earlier that parenthood is lasting responsibility. But it is a privilege to be a parent and one should make the best of it. Enjoy while it lasts. ha..ha..ha...
ReplyDeleteVery well said.
ReplyDeleteUntil now, my parents are looking after me, praying for me and loving me. And with all that, I'm so grateful for having them everyday of my life even if we're miles apart.
ReplyDeleteI'm still single right now and medyo matagal-tagal ko pa mai-experience ang parenting.. But I know that there will always be looking after :)
ReplyDeleteLet us know what you think