Motherhood is Not Only Biological
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Motherhood is said to complete the essence of a woman. Does this mean to say that women who are unable to bear biological children are less of a woman or for that matter less of a mother? I don't think so.
Women who are blessed like me to have children of our own can easily be "unmother-like" if we are not careful enough of how we interact with them in the same way that women who have not had children can be the most "mother-like" beings in this world to children they choose to take care of. The inability to bear children either by choice for remaining single or by fate due to some medical condition should not limit the capacity of women for motherhood.
I believe women in this situation are being called to answer the call of motherhood in a different way. It takes tremendous love and sense of giving to be able to truly nurture our own children but it takes much more to be able to love a child who is not our own in the biological sense. This is probably why adoption and other ways of taking care of another's child is such a noble thing to do.
My Say
Not every woman will be a biological mother but this should not prevent any woman from giving in to her natural instinct of nurturing and caring for a child. Many mothers take their children fof granted while many who have not been blessed with a child are moving heaven and earth to have one. The important thing to consider is that every woman has the power to make a positive change in a child's life, whether as a biolgical mother or as an adoptive mother.
That said, it makes much sense for women who are physically, emotionally, psychologically, and materially capable to decide to take care of one child and help make his or her life better.
45 comments
all the women has the right to become a mother and bearing a child is not the only option. Adopting a child could be an option, they can also help those kids who doesnt have mothers as well.
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i agree with that. I am an adopted child but my mother is very caring. I think being a mother is about instinct. :D
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you! It doesn't make a woman any less.. though the experience is not the same.
ReplyDeletei agree! everyone can be mother-like in so many ways.. I remember the woman beating up her kid that was recorded in a video.. so undeserving to be called a mother.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you. Motherhood is more than being a biological mother to a child. Even caring for one's siblings or even friends can show how motherly a woman can be :)
ReplyDeleteMotherhood is a lifetime commitment even if the kids are on their own, mom's will always be there to care.
ReplyDeleteWhatever it is, as long as they nurture the child to grow well then that would be another motherhood thing.
ReplyDeleteAgree! motherhood doesn't only mean that u bear a child it can also be raising "not ur own just like ur own". I luv how u wrote the post, keep on inspiring!
ReplyDeleteFor me, women who could take care of a child as if its their own can be a mother. (that's just me). ^_^
ReplyDeleteYou know what, I have a very high respect to all women regardless of the status. My mother has taught me to give more respect and for me, motherhood is never easy yet fulfilling. :)
ReplyDeleteIndeed.. it's not just all about genetics, one's relationship and love still reigns above all
ReplyDeleteExactly. There are a lot of children out there who need a good home and good parents.
ReplyDeleteIt makes much sense for women who are physically, emotionally, psychologically, and materially capable to decide to take care of one child and help make his or her life better. ---> I would have to agree on this. very well said :)
ReplyDeleteWell said. All women has their high hopes of becoming a mother but there are instances that some women get hardly being pregnant. To some extent, I guess we should all commend women for they give everything without asking in return.
ReplyDeleteAnyone can be a mother to a child biologically or not.
ReplyDelete@Mavin Reyes: Your mother is fortunate that you did not let adoption get in the way of your relationship.
ReplyDeleteJeffrey riles: Thanks for appreciating my post.
ReplyDeleteI think that motherhood is innate in every woman. I also believe that motherhood is a calling, because although women have this natural instinct to be mothers, not all women can live up with the responsibility.
ReplyDeleteOne can become a mother even thought she didn't bear a child, or even if a person is not a female. Some are not even mothers even if they bore one.
ReplyDeleteFor me, I think that being a mother is just in the mind. It depends on how mature one thinks, as well as how he/she cares for people around him/her.
There are many ways of showing or becoming a mother-like. Giving one love like mother to a child is one and yes it is a noble thing to do. As long as your love is there for the child it is considered as being a mother, no matter what.
ReplyDeleteI have 2 children, age 21 and 4...both adopted. Nurture is as important, if not more important than nature.
ReplyDeleteI agree. I am not a mother yet but I would love to. Haha!
ReplyDeleteAgree!!!sometimes there are mother who dont treat their children as as their own and dont appreciate the fact that they are blessed to have a real child so there are instance that i more appreciate those parents who loved their children even they are just adopted
ReplyDeleteA good argument here.
ReplyDeleteAnd I agree with you,
a humans compassion doesn't stop or extend to our kins alone.
I agree and it great to be a mom to others who need a mother's love and care.
ReplyDeleteAny woman can give birth, not every woman can be a mother.
ReplyDeleteSo true, Kathy
ReplyDeleteMotherhood is akin to fatherhood. It's a sacred title to a woman to spiritually look after God's spirit children. Unable to bear the spirit children of God is not a hindrance that those mothers couldn't discharge their motherhood spiritual task. They've relatives, or others who are orphans that need to be look after. That's their chance to fulfill their stewardship as such.
ReplyDeleteMotherhood can be simply defined as the role of the mothers itself. There are people -- single-father, breadwinner, eldest child -- can be classified as one.
ReplyDeletethat's why it angers me when i see mothers killing or aborting their child for senseless reasons. there are many women who wants to bear a child but couldn't and i hope they'd be given that chance to become moms.
ReplyDeleteI am always emotional when I think of true motherhood. The touch, care, patience and love of a mother is unconditional.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree. Not all mothers are motherly, sometimes those who can't have children are more motherly towards kids.
ReplyDeleteparents are not just those who brought the children to the world, but those who raised them. i agree that motherhood is not limited to just bearing your own biological child, but could also include raising other children properly as well.
ReplyDeleteWell! Before they she can be a mother, she should first find the right man for her! Nevertheless our mother really deserves love and respect.
ReplyDeleteI agree, all women can be a mother. In 4 years of being married, I haven't graced with a child yet and i am not sure i'll ever be due to a medical condition but it doesn't mean I can not be a mother. I've mothered my cousin's children. And I am planning to adopt a child once I turn 30.
ReplyDeleteMotehrhood is a noble act. i salute the mothers who sacrifices to take care of the kids.
ReplyDeleteA mother is not only when you can bear your own child. You can also adopt or foster a child. I am blessed that I have two kids with me who drives me nuts but love them both to pieces.
ReplyDeleteSo true, I know of some who are better of as mothers and some who are better single...it's a daunting task and those with the right heart are the ones who can really be a mom.
ReplyDeletei think it all depends on one's point of view. if one person has the opinion and thinks that a woman can be a complete person when she bore biological offsprings, well she's entitled to her opinion. but that's not always the case... a woman can be a mother and complete herself though she didn't go through the process of motherhood from conception to birth, still she can be called a mother when acquiring a child through adoption. like i said it all depends.
ReplyDeletei agree with swexia. u need to be responsible enough to be a mother. yes its not only biological, but the feelings for your own is different, than the ones that you dont own.
ReplyDeleteMotherhood is a special kind of relationship between a mother and offspring that no one can replace :)
ReplyDeleteso true. I have seen women who are not biological mothers but who are more motherly than me! waaaa
ReplyDeleteMothering is synonymous to nurturing, thus being a mother is more than just the biological thing. Not all women are blessed to bear their own child but every woman has the capability to become a mother if she wants to.
ReplyDeleteJust by the title itself being a mother is a very hard job yet very rewarding
ReplyDeleteI agree, motherhood is not just for those that can bear child but even if not capable of but has the nurturing ability and have so much love to take care of a child.
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